Natural Hair Pressures

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Maybe it’s just me, but sometimes I feel pressure for my hair to look extra fly on certain occasions.  I am a simple girl and I actually don’t like a lot of attention on me.  I’m not too flashy, but sometimes I feel that my hair has to look extra fly to prove to others and the world that natural hair CAN look good.  I want people to look at me and think “Hmmm, that’s kinda cute.  I could rock that!”  The thing that bothers me the most about this is that if I was relaxed, I wouldn’t care.  I would wear my hair however I felt like and how ever it fell when I took my scarf off in the morning.  I have to admit that I didn’t put to much effort into my hair before I went natural.

I went to a concert last weekend and for the weeks leading up to it, I fretted about how to style my hair for the event.  It was outdoors in Hotlanta and I knew that it might possibly be humid that day and I would probably sweat.  A few days before the event, when I realized that my style from earlier in the week was not going to last until the weekend, I started to panic.  “What am I going to do?”  Then I thought about it, if I was relaxed, my hair would probably be pulled back into an ugly ponytail and stuffed under a hat.  I would not care.  If I truly do not care about what other people think about me especially now since I have been natural, then I shouldn’t care for this event either.  I decided some water and a puff would be sufficient.

I think a part of me deep down still believes all of the stigmas that are associated with natural hair and I want to prove these “people” wrong by showing them how great my hair looks.  The question I have to ask myself is, who are these so called “people” that I feel I have to prove something to?  Since I have been natural (9 months) I have only received two comments that were less than nice.  Those people were not going to be at this concert nor will they be with me for the holidays (another event I have been fretting about).  I realize that I am causing myself undue stress for something that is more in my mind than anywhere else.  Negativity has not been my experience, so why am I stressing about something that has not happened?  It’s as if I want my hair to be fly, so that I can ward off any negativity towards my hair.  I have to realize that like India said, “I am not my hair” and I cannot allow some stuff sprouting out of my head to rule or dictate my life.  At the end of the day, it’s just hair.

Does anyone else feel pressure to make their hair look extra fly at time?




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  • WaxingPoetica

    Girl I think about my hair sometimes, but usually i leave it alone and just wear it down. I have ideas for locs but I am too lazy to worry about it. I tend to pour all of my creative hair energy into my daughter’s hair. If i have to pay detailed attention to two heads on the regular….. it’s just too much i tell ya. The best i can do is a cross braid thing i do or just a series of knots finished with a flip up. I’ve never even put my locs into a bun (its been 4 or 5 years growing). As long as i am looking presentable i am happy. Minimal hair stress over here, and that is the way i like it!

    • NaturalArtMaven

      That’s great! I feel like if I had more length I would care less. I think I would probably bun a lot and call it a day to be honest. With it being shorter and defying gravity, I feel I have to do more planning. I’ve got two staple styles so far that seem to save any bad hair day: Frohawk & Puff!